This is what has been revealed to me about the spirit and nature of man and woman. I will back it up with some science and a lot of scripture. It may be difficult to read. It will take you to some deep waters but if you stay to the end I will bring you back.

Spiritual and Physical

Man and woman are designed to be together in a perfect physical and spiritual harmony. The mental is the manifestation of the two coming together. This is true marriage. A man’s DNA bonds with a woman and changes her. A woman’s spirit bonds with a man’s to change his DNA (see epigenetics). The seed of a man has two purposes. One is to fertilize and one is to destroy other male dna. If we see the sperm of two males put together under a microscope we see a war. The fertilization process is not limited to the egg but also includes bonding with a woman’s own DNA (see microchimerism).

As a side note, the way the male sperm drops a genetic payload and attacks cells harboring other DNA leads me to theorize that some mutation in DNA function or the introduction of foreign DNA may be the genesis of all disease, whether it be by ingestion or by introduction into the womb. (Genesis 6:12)

Man does not defile a woman nor a woman defile a man if sex is in the proper context. Sex is both natural and spiritual and creates life.

A woman only becomes defiled when she has DNA that has bonded to her DNA and new DNA is introduced which is now fighting the male DNA already in her body and affecting her spirit. Likewise she is spiritually defiled if she’s spiritually bonded to multiple men.

A man becomes defiled when his spirit is negatively changed by the spirit(s) of a woman at war within herself and by entering into a woman whose body and spirit is taking part in an attack against him. This is even more the case for men engaging in unnatural acts under the direct attack of other men’s spirit and DNA.

What is Marriage and What Makes a Husband and Wife?

The concept of marriage is rooted in the bible and bible verses will often be quoted in traditional ceremonies. Though what we call marriage today is totally different than the concept in the bible. Marriage is the spiritual and physical bond created when you “know” someone on the deepest intimate level.

The first mention of the word wife in the scriptures is Genesis 2:23-25 which directly mentions becoming one flesh. Also the word “wife here is “Issa”(pronounced “Isha” strongs h802) which simply means woman. The translators choose when to use the word woman or wife but it’s the exact same word. In verse 23 where it says she shall be called “woman”(strongs h802) it’s the same word. So verse 24 can read “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his woman”. A husband is likewise a man or “is” (pronounced “Ish” strongs h376). All that to say that husband and wife have become very loaded terms.

Marriage is not the ceremony or the vows. In fact the bible has no prescribed ceremony or vows for marriage and tells us not to make oaths but to let our yes mean yes and our no mean no. (Matthew 5:34-37). So if to know someone means to have sex with them and also means they are your person (husband or wife) then every person you’ve had sex with you married. Whether it was a “one night stand” or whether multiple people in the same day, week, month or year etc.

Some Hard Truths

At the same time the bible also says God hates divorce. It was allowed because of the hardness of their hearts (Malachi 2:16, Mark 10:2-12)… and our hearts have become much much more hardened. The idea of sex and marriage are separated by a growing mental divide. It’s now rare for people to get “married” as virgins. In biblical terms those of us who are not virgins were married when we lost our virginity and subsequent to that have been married and divorced or committing adultery.

In the times we live in knowledge has increased and people go to and fro, literally and figuratively. (Daniel 12:4) I hear a lot of talk about why people aren’t getting married anymore, but in truth people are getting married (and divorced) more than ever. We just have different names for man and woman (girlfriend/boyfriend, baby mama/baby daddy, fiance/fiancee, boo, bae sneeky link etc etc etc.) …and marriage (courting, dating, friends with benefits, relationship, engaged, situationship etc. etc.). Then we want to put a halo around husband/wife and marriage and hold it up as something sacred. That doesn’t even take into consideration all the pleutonic connections that come along with this more connected world that impact the spirit. So now all the “soul ties” are tangled and twisted in intricate webs.

There were exceptions, but in biblical times and even as recent as the last 100 yrs it was most common, especially for Christians, to be virgins at their wedding. If we’re going by biblical standards anyone engaging in non-committal sex would be considered a whore or a whore monger, whether for money, or attraction or any temporary pleasure. (Genesis 38) So the hard truth is that this applies to a lot of people, myself included, for at least one point in our lives.

So how then do we reconcile these things with the modern state of men and women and is there any hope for people who are no longer virgins to have oneness of body and spirit with another person? Should we go back to the first person that took our virginity? What if they were your first and you weren’t their first? What if they are unwilling to reconcile? What if they have moved on and created a soul tie with another person? Should we never be with anyone else if the first “marriage” falls apart? Should we just surrender to lust and continue adding soul ties, God forbid? What does God want from us?

Modern Application

Here are some scriptures that helped me form my beliefs regarding this but first I had to accept that I have sinned and commit to taking on God’s mindset. Deuteronomy 24:4 says that if you divorce a woman and she goes and marries another man you must not take her back to be a wife. So it’s not God’s will for men to share a woman. That part was never hard to accept.  However, in Hosea 1 after the covenant had been broken God commanded Hosea to take a wife who was a harlot and the daughter of a harlot. He was then commanded in chapter 3 to take back his wife who had played the harlot and forgive her just as God had forgiven Israel.

Forgiveness does not make us partakers in sin and actually helps us to be forgiven (Matthew 6:14). In Matthew 19:9 it says that outside of having sex with another man, there are no grounds to abandon (divorce) your woman (wife). Even then you can choose forgiveness. However, if she wants to depart do not force her to stay (1 Corinthians 7:10-16). We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23).

There are so many verses talking about what marriage should be and not one has to do with dresses and tuxedos. If we can get to these we can sever the old spiritual connections of soul ties, heal each other and have real marriage. Here are just a few of those scriptures. Let marriage be held in honor (Hebrews 13:4). Malachi 2:13-16 speaks to the spirit God puts between man and woman and being faithful. Colossians 3:18-19 speaks about wives submitting to their husbands and husbands loving their wives without bitterness. I think 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 alludes to spiritual and DNA therapy that happens with a healthy sex life which science backs up. In 1 Peter 3:1-5 Peter speaks about wives carrying themselves in a way that honors God and their husbands and about men honoring and being understanding of their wives weaknesses so that our prayers may be answered.

With all this I am ministering first to myself and my household working out my own salvation (Philippians 2:12). I pray that wherever you are it be a blessing to you.